Many years ago, a man I worked with told me he enjoyed working with me and he had met my partner (later husband) Ed and thought he was a really nice man. However, he had to admit that as hard as he tried, he couldn’t understand the gay lifestyle. I thought about it a few minutes and told him I couldn’t understand it either because I didn’t know what it was. If he ever found out what it was, I asked him to let me know. Ed and I’ve been together as a couple for over 40 years and have experienced good time and bad times, practiced our Faith and have done our best to treat all people with dignity and respect. During those years we served in the military, we worked in the private sector, raised a family, paid our taxes, cared for our elderly mothers and are now retired. This elusive topic of a gay life style has come up more times than I can remember. The conclusion I have come to, and this may be alarming to my homophobic friends, if we live a gay lifestyle then all straight people must also live a gay lifestyle. I do hate to disappoint but there are no secret activities that go on behind closed doors. Do me a favor if you ever ask me about the gay lifestyle. Please explain what it is first because I don’t have a clue.