When Ed and I moved to Dallas, it was an exciting time because for the first time, we were able to meet other gay men and women.  However, we were uncomfortable at first because old habits die hard.  Coming from a military environment and having been closeted our entire lives, the new freedom was an … More Agog

To Buy or Not to Buy

Once I had a customer who came in with his wife looking for shoes.  In the end, they didn’t find any shoes but the husband asked me to ring up some underwear his wife had selected for him.  His wife left to go to the Lady’s Room leaving the two of us at the cash … More To Buy or Not to Buy

Friends Indeed

Once I saw two elderly gentlemen (more elderly than Ed and I) in a store walking arm in arm while they were shopping. I approached them and said they were an example to all folks about the beauty of a relationship between two men.  I further told them my heart was warmed by their courage … More Friends Indeed

Mardi Gras Experience

Before Katrina, Ed and I took a Caribbean cruise with our best friends.  The highlight of the cruise was two days in New Orleans during Mardi Gras.  None of us had been to Mardi Gras before and were looking forward to the festivities.  Upon leaving the ship we were thrust into huge crowds everywhere.  An … More Mardi Gras Experience


I’m sure that everyone has had the experience where they meet a complete stranger and know immediately that talking to them is going to be fun. At my retail gig a gentleman came in once and I knew if was going to be fun to work with him. We spent more time talking than actual … More Dick’s

Just for You

A number of years ago I had traveled to Palm Springs to for a Trade Conference. It was February and thoughts of Valentine’s Day were in the air. There was free time between the conference sessions and meetings with clients so I headed downtown to look for a Valentine’s present for Ed. Early in my … More Just for You

Visiting Mr. Bation

Although seldom discussed, all of us experience strong natural urges that decrease, but don’t go away, as we age. Recently, Ed and I were watching television in separate rooms because our tastes in TV entertainment are radically different. I was watching one of my ghost hunting shows which I enjoy because they are so silly. … More Visiting Mr. Bation

Catch 22, 23, 24……

As time marches forward, those of us in long term happy relationships begin to have a new concern. While not often spoken about it’s a concern none the less. Ed and I got together the day after my 25th birthday. While you’re young you are always invincible and there are endless tomorrows to plan and … More Catch 22, 23, 24……

Are These Too Gay?

On a busy Saturday, I was taking a break from selling shoes when business dropped off momentarily. I wasn’t really thinking about anything and was barely aware of the ambient noise around me. However, my ears perked up when I heard a man say: “Do you think these shoes are too gay?”.  I looked around … More Are These Too Gay?

Trunk of Junk

No surprise to many is the fact that men are very conscious of their genitalia. This is not a gay thing or a straight thing but a man thing. When I went to one of my early “gay” classes, I learned that within my world, men who were overly obsessed the the size of other … More Trunk of Junk